By Vicki Slingluff-Andrews
Many people embellish their resumes and exaggerate their status a bit when trying to impress people. Why do we think it is necessary to be someone we aren't with a better job and more exciting lifestyle?
Peer pressure and the need to live up to other peoples' expectations are the primary culprits that cause us to exaggerate our accomplishments.
There are jus some things you just can't lie about. This year I will attend my 40-year high school reunion. The bad thing is, none of us there will be able to lie about our ages, we're all the same. What can, and will, be exaggerated are the jobs. Many will talk about their careers as if it is the only thing that matters or is of interest to others.
The last reunion I attended was the 25th. At that time I was a newspaper editor and, while really not bragging, I was amazed how many of my former classmates were impressed with my title. (Maybe surprised is a better word considering I was a poor student in high school). Those of us with jobs and a bit of success didn't feel the need to talk endlessly about our notoriety and achievements.
Unfortunately, many who were long winded about their magnificent jobs and lives didn't take the time to make sure their stories sounded credible. At least in 1991, no one was able to “Google” the names of former classmates to check out their stories, so the insecure remained undisclosed for a while.
Things have changed. With numerous search engines in existence today, you can't make up a false life and get away with it. What I'm getting to is: If you think you have to lie about who you are and what you do, maybe it's time to actually become the person you pretend to be.
Think about the story you repeat to people you want to impress. Who are you in this fantasy and what steps do you have to take to become this person? Is it time to go back to school and finish that degree or just work harder and finally land that promotion? Take a good, honest look at yourself and where you are. Do you like what you see? Good. If not, change your image. Class reunions happen somewhere every year. Will you be ready for yours?
Vicki Slingluff-Andrews is a staff writer for Career Services International, which assists executives win desirable new jobs. Leveraging the knowledge of the 50+ coaches and resume writers on staff, Vicki offers information on job search techniques, resume writing, interviewing, and networking. She can be contacted at: firstname.lastname@example.org